Black Twitter (or X rather) is always asking the questions no one wants to or starting a crazy thread out of nowhere. Not too long ago folks were tweeting out their love languages and the importance of knowing what it is. Understanding your love language is essential for nurturing healthy and fulfilling relationships. It helps you communicate your needs effectively, ensuring that your partner understands how you prefer to receive love. For example, if your love language is words of affirmation, you might feel most loved when your partner compliments you or expresses appreciation. Knowing this about yourself can guide your interactions, allowing you to express your needs clearly and feel more fulfilled in your relationship.
Understanding your love language can lead to greater empathy and understanding in your relationships. We all want to break those generational curses and free ourselves of some of the toxic traits we thought we ‘regular’. When you do the work to understand your own needs, you can better recognize and appreciate how others express love, even if their love language differs from yours. This can lead to deeper connections and more harmonious relationships, as you become more attuned to the needs and desires of those around you.
To close out love month we’ve asked a few visionaries below what their own love language is.
Brandon Blackwood, Designer
“My love language is gift giving. Whether it’s an actual object or experience. I love seeing those I care about happy. The best feeling in the world is watching someone’s face light up from a gift (big or small). I love the idea of giving/having something from a close friend or family member. It’s like they’re always around. A gentle reminder.”
Kayla A. Greaves, Beauty Expert and Consultant
“My love languages have shifted over the years, but at this stage of my life, Acts of Service comes first—and I don’t foresee that changing any time soon. I’m at a point where I have no desire to be partnered with a man who doesn’t bring me a sense of ease. I want to be cared for and shown that I’m valued through your innate actions. Being a leader, taking charge, and doing—not just speaking—are traits that will not only attract me to you, but keep me around.”
Thermal, Designer, Whensmokeclears
“Acts of service is my love language. The thought of someone’s manifesting an act that they have to play out and create a whole roadmap to get to you is wild. I be wondering like how much time did it take or how long did you think about doing this before you took a leap and did it. It’s just the most thoughtful and valuable of the languages to me.”
Antoine Gregory, Founder, Black Fashion Fair
“As someone who loves being alone surprisingly my love language is quality time. I think being able to give someone your undivided attention or just sharing space with someone you love is something I haven’t always had but wanted. I had to realize that what was missing for me was that type of intimate connection. It’s how I’ve grown to show love. I make an effort to show up and be present. I appreciate quality time above all and sharing life experiences; big or small. It’s a wonderful way of building trust, intimacy and vulnerability.”
Tira Audrey, Fashion & Beauty Editor
“As someone whose love language is acts of service, I deeply value the thoughtful gestures and acts of kindness that my husband does for me without needing to be asked. These small yet meaningful actions, whether it’s preparing my favorite meal unexpectedly, taking care of chores around the house without asking, or surprising me with a heartfelt gift, speak volumes to me about his love and thoughtfulness. It’s incredibly touching to feel understood and cared for in such a proactive and considerate way. These acts of service not only make my day brighter but also strengthen the bond between us, reinforcing the deep connection and mutual support that defines our relationship.”
